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我切除了输精管,应该告诉我的中国女友吗?


When should I tell my Chinese girlfriendabout my vasectomy?
译者:unknown     发布时间:2015-09-24     超过 0 位网友阅读

如果你超过30岁还问这个问题,那你就是中国人所说的那种傻逼。

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When should I tell my Chinese girlfriendabout my vasectomy?

我切除了输精管,应该告诉我的中国女友吗?

She doesn't know that I had a vasectomymany years ago... Had a few breakups in the past due to this and am unsure if Itell her now. What would you suggest?
Edit- thanks guys...

她不知道几年前我进行了输精管切除术。。。就因为这个原因,我和好几任女朋友分手了,我不确定是不是应该现在告诉她。你们觉得呢?谢啦。




Individual99991 9 指標 3小時前
Tell her now. No point wasting both yourtime if she's not cool with it. Also if you're not comfortable with how fastshe's taking this relationship (just a few months and already it's parents andhoneymoons?) then you should talk to her about that, and potentially thinkabout ending the relationship. If you're just stringing her along, that's notfair on her. If she's crazy obsessive about locking you down when you want to takeit slow, that's not fair on you.

现在就告诉她。如果她无法接受的话,你们就没有必要相互浪费时间。而且如果你觉得她的进度太快的话(才几个月就已经要见父母和蜜月的事情了),那么你也应该和她谈谈,可以考虑结束这段关系。如果你一直拖着,这对她来说不公平。而如果你想慢慢来,而她又那么急的话,这对你来说也不公平。



[–]mashupXXL 4 指標 1小時前
I think you're pretty ignorant of life ingeneral and especially Chinese culture for even needing to ask this question.More than 99% of non-gay population procreates. It isn't some weird Chinesecultural quirk that she plans on having babies. That's literally theevolutionary meaning of life.
Now, in China, as others have said, this isprobably an incomprehensible action. If she understands it then she'll spenddays figuring out how to reverse it.
Conveniently you didn't mention your age.If you're over 30 and asking this question you are what is called a shabi inchinese. You're the (less than 1%) that is self neutered. The onus is on you tocommunicate this early on in any relationship. If their main goal is theentirely understandable goal of procreation with someone they love, and you letthem fall in love with you amd waste years of healthy child-bearing years youare a terrible person.

我觉得你不仅对生活无知,而且对中国文化更是无知,竟然问这种问题。只要不是同性恋,超过99%的中国人都会生孩子。她打算生孩子,这并非某种奇怪的中国文化怪癖。那是生命的进化意义。

正如上面有人提到的,在现在的中国,切除输精管真的是令人无法理解的行为。如果她明白了这是怎么一回事,她会花几天时间思考如何逆转。

你没有提到你的年龄。如果你超过30岁还问这个问题,那你就是中国人所说的那种傻逼。是你进行了这个手术(这么做的人不超过1%)。所以在任何一段关系中,你有义务尽早的向对方说明这个事情。如果中国女孩的主要目标就是和自己所爱的人结婚生子,而你让她们陷入爱河的同时浪费了她们几年最佳的生育孩子时间,那你真是个混蛋。



[–]Aan2007 3 指標 1小時前
should tell her much earlier, it's prettymuch dealbreaker unless you stored your sperm for future use
btw. I always thought it's reversible butas I read about it now it seem only up to 10 years after procedure and with nobig success rate
I am thinking about doing one so one noneed to worry anymore and can just enjoy sex without any protection, but anywaynot doing anything for sure with local butchers so it has some time.

应该更早的告诉她,这种手术确实很容易导致分手,除非你储存了精子以供未来使用。
我之前一直以为这种手术是可以逆转的,但是我又听说即使手术十年后,怀孕的成功率都不高。

我认为人们做这个手术的目的是为了能自由自在的做爱,不用采取保护措施,但是中国单身男人还没有接受这种做法,所以可能还需要一段时间。



[–]jonathon88 1 指標 42 minutes ago
To be frank, if she is the type of girl tomention meeting parents, and going on honeymoon after a couple of months ofdating, then it can be understood that she will want to have children. Culturaldifferences aside, it is not fair on her to not know that you can not havechildren. If she does not want children, then no problem, if she does, and shesfinds out later about your vasectomy, then you will likely have an unhappyrelationship/marriage, and it will end. On top of that, if you are a foreigner,the longer she goes out with you, the less viable she becomes to a largeproportion of Chinese men, and if you marry her, then it will pretty muchreduce her chances to nil, and not having children (or grandchildren) istantamount to torture for most Chinese people. In all honesty, having avasectomy before children and Chinado not mix.

坦白说,如果她在约会几个月后,就提见父母以及计划度蜜月的话,那么她应该是想要孩子的。文化差异先不谈,如果她不知道你不能生孩子,那对她来说是不公平的。如果她不想要孩子,那没问题,如果她要孩子,等到她发现时,届时你们的关系/婚姻将变得不幸福,而且肯定会结束。此外,如果你是个外国人,她和你恋爱的时间越长,她和中国男性约会的机会就越小,而如果你和她结婚,那她所拥有的机会将变为0,对于大部分中国人来说,没有孩子(或者孙子)相当于一种折磨。所以在生孩子之前进行输精管切除,这与中国是不相容的。



[–]allen_ami 1 指標 12 minutes ago
when she tells you shes pregnant...

当她对你说她怀孕时你再告诉她。。。。



[–]iwazaruu 1 指標 2小時前
Not letting anyone know you can't have kidsat the beginning of a relationship is not being honest. It's similar to nottelling your girlfriend you have an STD or you never went to uni/have a fakedegree. Stop lying and man the fuck up.

在一段关系开始时不让对方知道你不能生孩子,这是不诚实的行为。这就好比你没有对你女朋友说你得了性传播疾病或者你没有上过大学。所以不要再撒谎了,像个男人吧。



[–]jingzi_factoryMongolia 3 指標 46 minutes ago
Not sure about the very beginning of arelationship, vasectomies aren't really first date topics, but if you'vediscussed marriage and the future you 100% need to bring it up. Any delay afterthat is being not only a liar, but also a coward.

在第一次约会时,还真不是特别合适提到输精管切除这个话题,但是如果你们现在都已经开始谈婚论嫁的话,那么你就得告诉对方。此时还不说的话,那你不仅是个骗子,还是个懦夫。



[–]Aan2007 0 指標 15 minutes ago
not sure where you are from, but hiding STDand fake degree is very far from admiting you had vasectomy in place I camefrom, analogy iwazaruu used was really bad, youusually get STD for being iresponsible while get vasectomy when trying to beresponsible, I also fail to see similarity between cheating about youreducation and hiding your health condition which has nothing to do withcheating, if it's not endangering anyone
yeah, he should tell her at some point, butcomparing it with STD/fake degree is really stupid

我不知道你来自哪里,但是在我的家乡,隐藏自己有性病和假文凭的事实与承认你进行过输精管切除术相去甚远。Iwazaruu所举出的那个类比是相当糟糕的,一般情况下你在不负责任的时候才得了性病,而为了变成一个负责任的人你进行了输精管手术,而我也觉得隐瞒自己的受教育水平与隐瞒自己的健康状况是两回事,因为隐瞒健康状况不是一种欺骗,只要不危害到他人。

是的,他应该在某个时间点告诉她真相,但是将其与性病以及假文凭进行比较是愚蠢的做法。


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